Your date might also have kept in contact with friends who knew both of them while they were together.While it’s not always easy, try your best to be understanding and remember that there’s no need to feel threatened by his past.
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
It doesn’t matter if the separation from their child’s mother was amicable, her ‘fault’ or down to his own misdemeanours, there will always be an element of guilt where the kids are involved.
Take Fiona for example.“I met John, a recently separated dad on a dating site a few years ago.
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.
I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.