You don’t even think about it – you’re just happy to do it. Someone says or does something that reminds you of him and before you even realize it you’re talking about him. You could be talking to the lady who does your hair, or your mom, or the cashier at the grocery store and he’ll still come up in conversation.
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The words repeat in my head: I love him, but I don’t want to marry him; I love him, but I don’t want to marry him yet; I love him, but I don’t know if I can give him what he wants – if what he wants is the traditional commitment of marriage.
Many people in your situation, based on the above conversation, would have run for the hills right back into the arms of hell. But you’ve learned are choosing to live differently. The fact that you are writing to me 9 or 10 months in and doubting your love for him sends up a bit of a red flag. I know you appreciate him because he’s the kinda guy you want to be with but it feels like an important puzzle piece is missing. xo d I’m a Los Angeles based relationship expert life coach. If you read anything on this list and think, “Hmmm, weird…” I hate to break it to you, but you might be in love. MORE: The five stages of LOVE – from first date butterflies to long-term stability Maybe you’re checking to make sure you still have service. MORE: 13 Things That Happen When You Fall In Love, According To Science If it means being able to spend more time with him, you’ll sacrifice a lot. How small irritants become big issues—and what to do about them Whether you’re walking around, see a Starbucks and wish he was there with you…If it’s a euphemism for being heartily sick of their partner, it may be that there’s no way back and that separation is the best thing for them.But it can equally signify that the intimacy has simply faded somewhere along the line, leaving a sense of loss and aloneness.